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Emotionally Abusive Relationships

Abuse scars the soul. It does not matter if the abuse is physical, sexual (the effect is more than physical – deeply psychological), psychological or verbal. Abuse is no light matter. We should avoid contact with abusive people and never get into a relationship with one. We need to know the warning signs of an abuser.

Many adults who come from a home with at least one narcissistic parent have a distorted sense of self and have scars from abuse. They carry these hurts into their adult lives and future relationships. These people can be helped by developing a healthy sense of self. This has to be nurtured, and taught. Simply teaching them is not enough; a healthy self-esteem needs to be nurtured.

However there is another group. One who do not want to be helped. This article is about recognising a partner in this group.

Abuse is Emotional and Physical

Emotional abuse always accompanies, and in most cases precedes, physical battering. Targeted, repeated emotional abuse can severely affect the victim's sense of self and of reality. Here is a list of emotionally abusive behaviors abusers use against their partners and children:

Violence in the home is not something to be kept behind a closed door, no matter how embarrassing it may feel. The intimacy of a relationship is not to be confused with the partner’s abusive behavior.

The abuser’s main tool that makes it possible to continue the abuse is silence. Remember, you are not alone. One woman in three and one man in four is abused in some way during their life.

No matter how much an abusive partner professes “love,” it is not possible to systematically abuse the person one truly loves. The abuser is more than likely confusing feelings of lust and power with the word “love.”

If you are in an abusive relationship, you need to speak to someone you trust, family or friend, and start a plan to get yourself out of the situation. If it has gone so far that you have lost contact with those you used to confide in, resume at least one of those relationships. A strong relationship with someone outside the abusive relationship is imperative.

Do not try and deal with this on your own.

If that support is not possible, for a woman find a women’s refuge. There you will be welcomed with understanding. There are safe places to go for domestic violence help. Men's refuges are scarce.

To help you to recognize an abusive character read warning signs of an abuser.

Abusive Relationships:

Men victims of domestic abuse

Abused Men

healing from domestic abuse

Domestic Abuse Healing from Within

 emotional abuse and verbal abuse

Emotional and Verbal Abuse

breaking the cycle of abuse

Domestic Abuse Dynamics:
Breaking the Cycle