Help save my marriage
Has your husband recently left you? We can help save your marriage.
We do not promise “3 easy steps,” because nothing will seem easy to you
at the moment.
What you need to focus on right now is getting help with recovering your relationship.
I have been there, as my story of saving my marriage describes.
There are three important things to keep in mind:
- Not to do anything that can make the situation worse
- Slow down to gather strength for the rescue to come
- Planning to save your marriage
There are three steps that you do need to go through, but they may
not seem logical at the moment. If your husband or partner has left you
then he is in flight mode. Chasing after him will only cause him to want
to flee even more.
He may be feeling guilty and the only way he can ease that guilt at
the moment is to run away blaming you and resist any attempts at getting
him back. Remember that he will try to still his guilt by blaming you,
so do not, at this stage, take too much of what he is saying personally.
The time for analyzing will come later, not now.
Did I say that what is happening is not logical. Strong feelings have
little to do with logic and what you are feeling like doing right now
is probably the opposite of what you should try to do at this point.
Now you have to take care of yourself, so that you will be able to
plan to save this marriage. And if it looks hopeless right now, do not
worry, it is possible even to save a seemingly hopeless relationship.
In spite of how you are feeling, you need to calm yourself down, which is the best way to treat these emotions:
- Are you feeling impatient? That is perfectly normal. If you can’t wait and feel you have to do something, then there is an excellent guide on how to save a relationship to help you get a structure of what to do and how to do it.
- Are you feeling desperate? That too is perfectly normal. That how to save a marriage guide will help calm you by giving you confidence.
- Do you feel depressed? That is normal.
Depression at this stage is your body’s response to the stress you
are under. If your depression makes you feel listless and tired, that’s
OK for the moment. You do not have to be Superwoman and keep the kitchen
clean like Martha Stewart.
If you find yourself falling into the emotionally depressed state,
where you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Whatever you
Are you constantly asking yourself, what went wrong and how could it happen? Don’t!
It happened and now you are in relationship rescue mode. You are
going forward. Strange as it may sound, but in situations like this
there is a healthy depression and an unhealthy anxiety.
The depression that causes you to have no energy is good at this
stage. You can even be a bit quietly reflective, but anxiety and worry
with constant questions like, “Why?” is not healthy and does not help
you get your strength that you need.
You may feel impatient and want to call your partner immediately and
get him back right away. This is a normal feeling that everyone
experiences. If there was an angry breakup, you might want to call him
as you may feel you have to answer his accusation. Stay calm, as
contacting your partner too early usually does not make things better.
Your partner needs time and space to think, and not giving this is
likely to chase your partner even further away. Your partner needs time
to reflect over what your relationship means, and to feel the loss.
This is now time to gather yourself for your relationship rescue.
Feeling sorry for yourself at this stage is the most natural normal
thing to do, but you need to get yourself going if you are to save this
marriage. Don’t get going doing just anything you feel You need to
structure your plan how to save your marriage.
On the next page are three basic steps you need to get yourself going to save your marriage.